Di dunia ini, banyak orang rese


Ada seorang ibu yang punya warung makan, sederhana sekali warung makannya, tapi karena enak dan murah, warung itu terkenal dan ramai. 

Alkisah, suatu hari datanglah si mr X Ahli pemasaran (ngakunya), datang dengan jas dan stelan kinclong. Makan si mr X ini, sambil sibuk komentar sana-sini. Termasuk sebuah pertanyaan, "Bu, kalau warungnya ramai begini, kenapa tidak pindah ke toko yang lebih besar?" Tanya si mr X pada pemilik warung, Bu Siti. Bu Siti hanya diam (karena dia sedang sibuk melayani pembeli lain). 

"Sayang loh, Bu, ini ramai sekali. Bla-bla-bla... Kalau pindah, nanti penjualannya semakin baik, bla-bla-bla..." Si mr X mulai berceloteh, dan terus berceloteh seperti tahu sekali soal pemasaran warung makan.

Lima menit, sambil terus kerepotan melayani pembeli lain, Bu Siti akhirnya balas bertanya, "Sampeyan mau modalin saya pindah ke toko yang lebih besar?" Si mr X menatap Bu Siti. Terdiam. 

"Gimana maksudnya, Bu?"

"Kalau sampeyan mau modalin, saya mau saja pindah. Sekalian tolong carikan lokasi yang lebih bagus dibanding di sini. Tolong urus semua yang sampeyan jelasin tadi." Si mr X nyengir, menggeleng, "Ah, itu cuma saran sih Bu." Bu Siti menatap wajah si mr X yang cengengesan, memutuskan melanjutkan kesibukannya. Dia sudah bosan sebenarnya mendengar komentar seperti si mr X ini. Orang2 yang tidak paham sama sekali kenapa dia tetap berjualan di sana--tapi merasa lebih tahu. 

Di dunia ini, banyak orang rese seperti Si mr X ini (boleh jadi kitalah si mr X-nya). Ada yang nanya, "Kenapa belum lulus kuliah?" Kemudian panjang lebar menceramahi kita. Ada yang nanya, "Kenapa belum bekerja?" Kemudian panjang lebar membahas soal pekerjaan, dsbgnya. "Kenapa belum menikah?", "Kenapa belum punya anak?", "Kenapa belum nambah anak lagi?"

Satu-dua, itu level-nya memang basa-basi, pemanis percakapan. Tapi tidak sedikit yang menjurus ke level rese, tidak penting, dan hei, situ memangnya siapa? Apakah tidak punya topik percakapan lain? Tidakkah kita membahas tentang hari yang cerah? Tidakkah kita membahas betapa segar udara hari ini, betapa banyak nikmat dari Allah ? Daripada membahas hal-hal yang boleh jadi adalah misteri.

Jika kita dalam posisi si mr X tadi, selalu pastikan apakah kita dalam posisi relevan atau tidak mengomentari, penting atau tidak bertanya kepada orang lain. Bertanya soal menikah misalnya, orang tuanya bukan, teman dekat juga bukan, hanya karena bertemu sesaat, sudah PD sekali bertanya. Bertanya soal anak, kasus lainnya, keluarganya bukan, sahabatnya juga tidak, hanya karena bertemu satu menit di sebuah acara, sudah PD sekali tertawa sambil bertanya. Kan itu ganjil sekali. 

Atau jangan-jangan, teknologi media sosial telah mengubah cara berpikir dan cara berinteraksi. Kita selalu merasa satu level, satu derajat, hanya karena bisa berkomentar di postingan orang lain. Kita selalu merasa teman dekat, kenal buanget, hanya karena bisa nge-add. Sayangnya, itu keliru sekali di dunia nyata. Di dunia aslinya, ayolah, kita yang super gaul di media sosial, boleh jadi tetangga sebelah rumah pun tidak kenal.

Terakhir, jika kita dalam posisi si mr X, sebenarnya apa sih respon terbaik kita saat berada di warung makan itu? Basa-basi terbaik kita? Sederhana saja, kenapa kita tidak berkomentar, "Wah, Bu, ini makanan lezat sekali. Besok-besok saya akan makan di sini lagi, juga ngasih tahu teman-teman saya agar ke sini." Nah lihatlah, Bu Siti akan tersenyum--atau malah sampeyan dikasih makan gratis olehnya.

Jangan jadi orang rese. Selalu berlatih mengendalikan mulut kita jika sudah berurusan dengan area personal orang lain.


After school safety - tips and reminders


When parents send their children for after school programs, they take it for granted that the child is safe. But since the number of children participating in these activities has increased, it is necessary to look into safety issues.


Children are vulnerable when they are outside the classes. While going or returning, they should know the safest route to take. Many kids hang out with their friends just after these classes. Find out 'danger zones' from your neighbors and make the children aware of these.


The child has to know how to handle emergencies. It is better to discuss various scenarios with your child. Tell her what she should do in case the class is suddenly cancelled. Show her the first-aid kit at home and make sure she knows whom to call in an emergency. Post any important contact information in a place that is easily accessible to the child. If the child will be alone at home, discuss a few unexpected things with her. Tell her to use the safety chain ALWAYS.


Relay on your neighbors and friends when needed. Let your child know who can be contacted at times of emergency. Ask your child to check in by phone. Above all, always tell the child to be in a group. Visiting toilets all alone or going home via isolated streets must be avoided.


Here is some practical advice on how to be successful


It is a sad aspect of live but not everyone can be successful. In the world we live in there are winners and losers. Most people want to be in the group of winners but unfortunately many remain where they stand. As you well know, being successful means to stand above the others around you or to know more that the one sitting next to you does.

You should understand how to have more success than your colleague and to work for success. Success doesn’t come free or cheap, you have to pay for it. The price is not monetary but it is expressed in manners of time and effort, these being precious details that you can’t receive back once you gave them away. Success is hard. Generally speaking to be successful you have to work hard, be educated and have a little bit of luck. Often you have to try many times until you truly reach success.

Not being successful is simple: you make all the wrong choices, you work without ethics, the lack of responsibility and of education is almost everything. Although it is not obvious the lack of success is also a choice, but a choice that can be gained on the first try.

Here is some practical advice on how to be successful:
  • Build up a purpose in life, create a plan and go on living by it.
  • Alter your behavior and learn good manners.
  • Always read, always learn and always communicate.
  • Think and act fast when faced with an opportunity. If you see what you really want don’t let any chances pass you by. This one might just be the last you will get.
  • Give up bad habits and keep the good ones: eat well and regularly, get enough sleep, go to a gym or just go jogging.
  • Give up watching so much television, or playing games.
  • Try to work more in the shortest possible period of time.
  • Keep your sense of humor but don’t become rude.
  • Cherish everything you have and get.
  • Find out more, be responsible, learn about control and always stay informed.


A virus is a program


A virus is a program – a piece of executable code – that has the possibly of cloning itself. Computer viruses can spread fast and they are hard to eradicate. They can be attached to any type of file and they are spread as files copied and sent from person to person. They can be contacted from a floppy disk or Cd, they can be launched when opening a program or accessing a file, any file, or they can be brought from the internet by downloading a file or accessing a web page and as attachments to e-mails.

Besides replication, some viruses have something else in common: their infecting routine. The behaviors of viruses vary from showing messages or images to destroying files, formatting the hard disk drive and other severe damage. If the virus does not inflict damage it can still cause problems by taking up space and memory, lowering the performances of the computer.

Nine rules for avoiding viruses would be:
  1. Use an anti virus program at all times.
  2. Install and keep active a firewall.
  3. Make sure your system is up-to-date with all the existent updates.
  4. Keep your browsers security settings at maximum.
  5. Never click yes when your browser asks you if you want to install or open some content coming from an organization you don’t know or don’t trust.
  6. Install an anti-spy ware program to enlarge the protection.
  7. 7. Never install a browser help or search bar accepting the times it comes from a reliable source.
  8. 8. Use a different credit card for online shopping.
  9. 9. Don’t click on email attachments that are executable files even if they look as if sent from known persons.
The antivirus programs have a big role in providing your computers security and protecting it from viruses, worms, Trojan horses and other “invaders” that can attack a computer. The role of an antivirus program is to detect the presence of viruses in a computer, to disinfect the files or delete the ones that can’t be disinfected and prevent the contamination of the computer.

Most of the companies that produce antivirus have online free tools for scanning computers for viruses. If you don’t have an antivirus yet and can’t decide which one to buy you can enter their online sites and try the services for free, then decide what to use.

or playing with the food, express yourself clearly as if you are the one that has a problem.

”What did you really mean by that?”

When kids fight and get nervous, it is possible for them to say things like “I hate you”. but that doesn’t have to scare you because these are the first words that come to mind when they are engaged in a conflict with their friends. But you can help them get over it and make them think of what was it that made them so nervous and angry.

”People are different and they have different needs.”

When you here you child say for the thousandth time “But this is not fair”, you have to make them understand that the reason that makes people be treated differently is the fact they have different needs.


Rindu itu memang tertuju padamu, ibu


Suara lembutmu, belaianmu pada rambutku, usapan mungilmu itu, semuanya masih kuingat sampai sekarang…. Air mata ini memang mengalir untukmu, ibu.

Mungkin aku tak bisa lagi selalu di sampingmu, memelukmu, mendengar ceritamu, aku merindukan semua itu.…

Terkadang memang kau marah, tapi itu karena perilaku dan salahku. Dan engkau pantas memarahiku. Akulah yg tak sepantasnya membuatmu kecewa. Wanita yg mempertaruhkan nyawa hanya agar aku bisa melihat dunia ini.…

“Kami perintahkan kepada manusia supaya berbuat baik kepada dua orang ibu bapaknya, ibunya mengandungnya dengan susah payah, dan melahirkannya dengan susah payah (pula). Mengandungnya sampai menyapihnya adalah tiga puluh bulan, sehingga apabila dia telah dewasa dan umurnya sampai empat puluh tahun ia berdo’a:…

Ya Allah…

Tunjukilah aku untuk mensyukuri nikmat Engkau yang telah Engkau berikan kepadaku dan kepada ibu bapakku dan supaya aku dapat berbuat amal yang saleh yang Engkau ridhai. berilah kebaikan kepadaku dengan (memberi kebaikan) kepada anak cucuku. Sesungguhnya aku bertaubat kepada Engkau dan sesungguhnya aku termasuk orang-orang yang berserah diri.” (Qs. Al-Ahqaaf : 15)…

Bahkan doamu padaku, tak pernah berhenti. Malunya aku yg terkadang lalai melampirkan namamu dalam doa-doaku….

Ibu, bakti ini, kutujukan padamu. Kasih sayang ini, aku akan selalu berikan untukmu. Sungguh, kusadari semua itu tak senilai dengan apa yg telah engkau berikan padaku. Namun, semoga dengan aku berusaha terus menjadi anak yg sholehah doaku untukmu bisa selalu di dengar oleh Allah Swt.…

Aamiin ya Allah
Terima kasih Ibu..…
Salam Santun Sahabat…